CHANGE
Illustration★★★★I was a neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change. I resented them, and I agreed with them, and I wanted to change, but simply couldn’t, no matter how hard I tried.
What hurt the most was that, like the others, my wife kept insisting that I change. So I felt powerless and trapped. Then, one day, she said to me, “Don’t change.
I love you just as you are.” Those words were music to my ears: “Don’t change. Don’t change. Don’t change...I love you as you are.’
I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly I changed! Now I 38 Change know that I couldn’t really change until I found some- one who would love me whether I changed or not.
Is this how you love me, God? =.
— deMello
The point
A man trapped by others' demands to change finds transformation only after his wife accepts him unconditionally, illustrating how God's unconditional love enables change.